My obsession of getting a twin, boy and girl is getting worst.

I mean, tak semena-mena semalam, I've dreamt jumpa Dr Hamid Arshat, tanya pasal macam mana nak dapatkan anak kembar. Boy and girl. Bolehh???

The famous doctor.

We've been married for almost 5 years, and alhamdulillah, blessed with one son. And as the kecik dah start merangkak, berjalan, berlari and such, people kept asking, bila nak tambah anak lagi seorang?

If ada rezeki, if tulang belakang dah okay, adalah tu new addition to our family.

Gua tak salahkan orang yang bertanya. Soalan lazim kot? Untuk orang dah kahwin. Orang yang dah ada anak pun, semua orang pakat tanya bila nak tambah, inikan pula bila tak ada zuriat sendiri lagi kan?

My 3rd brother, Din, been married more than 5 years (if tak silap) and baru dapat Ikhwan. The first son. And the following year, dapat Ariff. And now, the new baby girl (yess, girl), Isma. Sesungguhnya Allah itu Maha Mengetahui. Tak dapat dalam 5 tahun pertama, and bila rezeki dah sampai, berderet dapat. Okay. Tak adalah berderet. Tapi 3 kids for years, is Alhamdulillah.

Lepas Din kahwin, Cik Esah kahwin dulu (memang suka benar langkah bendul). Kalau tak silap, Cik Esah pernah gugur (you see, anak sepupu I tahu my sister miscarriage, I sendiri pun tak tau, hmmmm), lepas tu blessed with Humaira and Nadia. And now waiting for the new born (boy perhaps), and lepas tu I've got married. Yeee. Gua lagi advance. Langkah 2 bendul. My 4th brother (Cik Esah, th 5th), and Pok Mat (the 6th). Lepas I dah kahwin, barulah Im and Pok Mat kahwin. Im, dapat Khalid (Mat K) and Pok Mat belum ada rezeki lagi.

I bet, Pok Mat and wifey mesti bosan dengar orang tanya bila nak dapat anak. Almost 3 years of marriage, belum ada zuriat. For sure, mulut-mulut tepi pagar tu bising. Standard dah tu.

My story didnt end there.

Makin lama makin banyak story yang, we-keep-trying-and-trying-still-there's-no-luck. And most of the time, the kecik lah menjadi pengubat hati duka lara our friends yang belum ada anak. Some of them, been married more than 10 years!

I kesian sebenarnya with those yang tak ada anak. Macam-macam cerita I dengar. For them, dapat anak seorang pun dah syukur sangat dah. Yes. I know that feeling very well. Lepas tu jumpa wifey coach hockey. Anak perempuan dia dah kahwin for almost 3 years and there's still no luck for them. Raya 2 tahun lepas, she's pregnant tapi luar rahim. Dah makan herba cina, operate itu ini and now, she's pregnant. Alhamdulillah. Tu pun lepas 2 months of treatment with Dr Hamid Arshat.

Wifey coach hockey tu mengadu yang inlaw anak perempuannya bising sebab she cant provide kid for her son. Boleh? Tak ke terguris hati mak perempuan tu? Hati mak perempuan tu pun terhiris luka dalam semua, apatah lagi anak perempuan dia tu?

Sebab tu, she kept looking for alternative treatment. Most of the salary beli ubat just to get pregnant. Pergi sana sini jumpa the expert. And honestly, I salute anak coach hockey tu. She's just a school clerk. And her husband kerja kilang. Sijil degree master semua tak ada. Tapi, sebab nak bagi cucu untuk inlaw yang bising, she's trying to save as she can.

Hamid Arshat is not so expensive sampai nak beli bra and seluar dalam baru pun tak boleh. A school clerk can afford to set an appointment, apatah lagi orang yang gaji beribu-ribu. From what I've heard, it's around 200-300 per consultation. Okay la kan? Nak dah pregnant, nak check anak bulan-bulan pun lebih kurang sama je dik oiii. Demi our own little angel, money is the last thing to fikir-fikir, timbang tara.

Rupanya Hamid Arshat one famous person in gyneo. Nampak sangat I tak tahu = p

I borak dengan wifey Abang Nazri pun, she told me that her friend (married for 8 years), jumpa Hamid Arshat, and alhamdulillah, dapat anak kembar, sepasang, boy and girl. Which make me go gagaa over!

Hahahaha.

Seriously.

I nak anak kembarrrr!

My side, my cousin ada anak twin. Both girl tapi unidentical. My husband side, his aunties, kembar. So, ada kemungkinan ke tak I dapat anak kembar boy and girl tu? He..

I can already imagine, 3 car seats at the back, and senang, sekali beranak je, keluar 2. So, I can catch up with other friends yang semua dah ada anak 2-3-4-5 orang anak. Okay. Not my friend. The husband's friends. Eh. Kawan my sayang, kawan I juga. Even the husband's best friends pun dah nak masuk 3 anak.

Bila kahwin, tiba-tiba macam ada race untuk dapat anak pula kan? Macam-macam.

I've told my sayang..

: Eh yang. Nanti nak jumpa Hamid Arshat ah. Nak tanya macam mana nak dapatkan anak kembar. Lelaki perempuan. Wahhh! Bestnyaa!

: Hmm.. (buat mukaa malas layan)

: Lepas tu, orang nak bersalin tahun 2012 ah. Tahun Naga tu. Eh.. Tapi tu maksudnya nak kena pregnant tahun depan. Eh.. Awalnyaa.

Hahahaha.

Jangan layan orang tak berapa nak betul ni. We've never have a proper plan. Nak anak berapa, jarak anak and such. Ada rezeki, adalah. Even when am saying those plan nak anak kembar, nak bersalin tahun 2012, I was likee.. Laaa. Ni biar betul? Dapat anak bukannya macam beli kereta or rumah. Or pilih kasut. Kan? Tapiii, if dapat anak kembar, boy and girl, bersalin tahun Naga, 2012, cukup sifat, sempurna akal fikiran, it's Alhamdulillah! Amin! Amin! Amin!

Kata je haa lebih. Tak tau ada ke tak.

The kecik adalah cucu yang ke 13 on my side and the first one on my husband's side. Kira cucu sulung la ni. And one year later, my sis-in-law, my husband's one and only younger sister, bersalinkan a baby girl. My siblings (7 of them) except Pok Mat semua dah ada anak. And on my husband's side (4 of them), only my husband and his sister yang dah ada anak. The first (married) and the youngest (single) belum ada anak. And I must say, bila anak No 2 (in this case, my husband and me) ada anak, and yang sulung belum ada anak, it's kinda a pressure.

Sorry to say. Tapi sungguh. Makcik-makcik or orang sekeliling (even our friends) bila tahu yang abang the husband belum ada anak, depa pula yang risau lebih. Depa yang kata lebih. Pelik juga ye manusia ni. I pun tak adalah kata apa pun. Belum ada rezeki. Lagipun tak adalah macam I sibuk-sibuk nak tanya my ipar tu. Tak kuasa den haa. Depa duk hujung sana, I duk hujung sini, buat apa nak sibuk tanya. Abang sendiri pun I tak tau, inikan pula biras/ipar. Kang ada yang kena makan selipar kang. He..

Tapi sungguhlah, everyone will wondering. And sok sek sok sek. Kadang-kadang bila I rimas, nak je I cakap to my ipar/biras, 'Go and meet some good doctor lah. You guys can afford what?'. Sebab bila orang cakap-cakap, I just want them to stop. I dont want people to mengata mengumpat my own family. It's not nice you know. And I think, it's like wajib untuk find way to seal those mulut-mulut. Find ways la kan. So, orang kept berhenti tanya bila nak ada anak. So, depa pun tak dapat dosa banyak (hasil mengumpat banyak sangat) and you guys (yang belum ada anak) pun dapat pahala (seal their mouth off) and dapat anak. Siapa tak nak kan?

I pernah la terdengar my mother-in-law cakap to my biras, masa tu I just came back from Besut, landing KLIA terus off to my inlaws's, and the first brother and wifey was there,

: Haa.. Pegang la baby tu. Wan pun ada isi juga tuu dalam perut.

And I was smiling. Oh. Dah pregnant. Syukur lah kan. Nanti kang bertambahlah cucu on my inlaws's side. Tapi days later, bila one of the aunts tanya my mother-in-law,

: Isteri Tajul (my husband's eldest brother) tu pregnant  dah ke?

: Tak. Bila balik je asyik uzur je. Bila nak pregnant nya.

And I was like.. Hmmm? Macam jantung I pula kena tikam. Tapi I dah cakap to my husband..

: Nasib baik kita dah ada anak. Kalau tak semua orang nak buat statement kejam.

And the husband replied..

: Ada cucu pun, bukan selalu balik sini pun.

Laa.. Dah tu seorang sini seorang sana. To be fair, if my in-laws tak dapat jumpa cucu sulung, my parents pun tak jumpa juga the kecik. Bukannya nak sorok anak. Kan? Eh. Itu cerita lain. Itu entry mother of cucu sulung. Hee..

I bet Pok Mat lagi banyak dapat kata-kata pedas. As additional kata-kata orang sekeliling,

: Ohh.. Tak pregnant lagi? Wife dia tu tua setahun daripada dia kan?

See.. Bila tak ada anak. Semua nak bangkit. Apa masalah diaorang ni? If ada anak berderet,

: Wahhh! Macam ERL.

La.. Pulakkkk!

I've seen couples yang been married for more than 10 years and still there's no kid. Some of them kept trying and trying and some of them, dah tired of trying. Dah tak ada spark. Orang kata, bila tidur malam, seorang tergolek sebelah kiri and sebelah lagi tergolek sebelah kanan. There's no spark like the old times anymore.

Semoga setiap hari adalah hari pengantin baru.