Dahi akan berkerut.

If you tanya I.. I memang kurang suka the term of pukul anak.

Especially if the father yang pukul anak.

You nak pukul anak, untuk ajar or bagi ingatan or memang dah geram sangat sampai patah rotan tu dikerjakan.. Well.. Luckily I dont married that men!

This is my opinion.

If tak setuju. It's ok.

Ini adalah pandangan daripada seorang mother yang dibesarkan oleh my parents dan dijaga oleh my parents plus my siblings. I rasa the best and bitter sweet of both worlds.

I tau macam mana the cara orang lama didik anak. And macam mana the new generations didik anak.

I'm the youngest one. So my abah sayang I lebih. Cik Esah? Hu.. She's much more closer to my mak. Daripada I kecil till dah kahwin, am the only one yang dapat hugs form my abah. Cik Esah tak dapat. Padan muka. He.. My abang-abang used to say that abah is garang. Memang pun. Tapi as grows older, and am being the youngest, my abah dah tak kuasa nak melayan budak ni seorang. The only choice that left, memanjakan anak perempuan bongsu dan juga anak bongsu.

So, if you're asking me, pernah ke I kena sebarang pukulan or rotan from my mah abah.

No.
Tak pernah.

Am glad I dont get one.
Otherwise I'll..

I dont know.
For me, golongan bapa bukan golongan yang pukul anak.

Father for me, a figure.
And father always and should be cool all the time.

When things get really hottttttt, barulah naikkan suara sikit. That's what a father should do.

Nagging, cubit, jeling, it's all mother.

Sebab tu, everytime we're having day out with friends, or borak-borak with others, if kita cakap..

: Eh.. Baik je ye anak you. Diam je duduk kat sebelah you.

And the father said

: Time baik, baik la juga. Tapi if dah nakal, memang kenalah rotan tu.

And I was... Gulp!

I know, it's your own right how to raise your own kid. Tapi.. Can you please keep all the rotan cubit pukul and all dalam hati sahaja? Please?

It's not something nice to hear.
There's a generation gap between my husband and me.

Mind you. My husband looks muda. Tapi umur dah the big three o. And I always said to my husband..

: Jangan nak cubit-cubit anak. Father should be cool. You're the one nak jadi daddy cool kan?

Sebab I muda. Cewah.. Nak juga tu mengaku muda. No. Really. The next generation will think of less of rotan and cubit, and more to the psychology.

You see.. If during the day, you jerkah or tinggikan suara dekat the kecik, malam tu mesti the kecik merengek. Cranky all the way. Yang jadi mangsa?

I.
The mother.

Orang lain marah, still the mother yang the kecik cari. Kids are like crystal. Too much heat, they'll break out. And they know nothing actually.

Yes. My favourite word every single day..

: Muhammmmmaddddddddddddd!

: Babyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!

Muhammad digunakan dikala anak main crayon sampai habis post-it tertanggal. Or time air tumpah. Or time korek plug kat rumah dan sewaktu dengannya. Biar jadi baik sikit sebut nama Muhammad.

If geram pun, paling-paling, I tepuk punggung the kecik. Tu pun atas pampers. Mind you. Anak teruna I still wearing diapers. Diapers tebal. Tak apa.

You see.. Mother memang a bit 'kejam' tapi soft-hearted. Tapi the father should be cool. Always be cool. And bila dah the mother malas nak nagging or dah pening tergolek, barulah jerit nama anak.

Tak payahlah nak angkut anak masuk dalam stor or nak rotan anak. Kesian budak tu. The gap between your age and the kids, almost 30 and some cases almost 40 years.

Satu soalan.

Tak malu ke cari gaduh dengan budak umur 3-5 tahun?

If umur 8 tahun tu, logik akal juga. Dah tau beza baik buruk. Even they still not the master in that part. Still, their poo dah tak cair lembik.

One thing about the kecik, pantang if I suruh tidur, the kecik will be grumpy. Melalak macam kena pukul. Walhal, if I pukul punggung the kecik pun dah rasa bersalah teramat. Ni nak cubit-cubit anak. Cubit anak is not my thing. Tak nak buat dan tak nak terbiasa. Once you dah start cubit, mesti ada 2-3 cubitan lagi after that.

Budak lagi haaaaa. Tak guna cari gaduhhh!

Sebab tu I memang avoid to speak,

: If dah marah, you buat apa dekat anak you?

Paling-paling, bila ada orang tanya that killer soalan, I'll just smiling. Or dengar para ibu lain bercerita cara mereka 'mendenda' anak. Once this topic coming out, I'll seal my mouth.

Cannot stand.
Sebab I dont like the harsh method.
I dont want the kids growing up with too much hate and anger in their feeling. Kadang-kadang kenangan masa silam boleh mengganggu pyschology kanak-kanak. Yes. One day, bila dah besar, dah berjaya, mesti terkenang all those memories. Yang pahit pun boleh jadi manis once you're already success. Tapi bila you drop, (dalam hidup mesti ada sekali jatuh, itu wajib), sedikit sebanyak, kenangan yang pahit masa kecil, menjadi semakin pahit.

Sebab I tahu. Kita semua tahu. Bila kita marah, syaitan hasut. We're not thinking like normal people.

And tanpa sedar, if you pegang rotan, ingat nak rotan anak sekali je, tapi terjadi sampai 10 kali. Sedar-sedar anak dah tak sedar.

Can you face the reality that time?

Can you?

Mother memang bebel.
Father harus cool.

And bila ada orang bagi nasihat.. Bila husband marah anak, wife patut diam.

Once again my dahi berkerut.

If the husband dah memang asyik marah anak, and every single time tu la the wife nak diam?

There's other methods instead of marah anak.

The husband aka the father should be aware of this. Being a father doesnt matter that you're immune to do anything to raise your kid(s). Banyak lagi cara yang elok. If nak marah, sila serahkan tugas tu kenapa the mother. They're damn expert in those part.

Kadang-kadang kita marah, budak-budak bising. Budak-budak. Nak cari gaduh dengan diaorg kenapa????????

And tanpa kita sedar, budak yang start buat bising, adalah anak sendiri. You pernah tengok anak orang lain yang pergi kenduri kahwin or birthday party or any majlis, yang bila sampai je rumah orang lain, terus jadi macam..

Fuhhhhh!
Budak ni baru terlepas kandang ke apa?

Ok. Bukan kandang.
Tapi they looking forward to be free.

Mungkin sebab their parents memang bising at home. Dan bila sampai tempat orang, that's their turn to buat bising.

DOnt you ever think that whatever your kid(s) doing is flashing your attitude towards the kids(s)?

You marah anak.
Nanti anak you pergi marah anak orang lain.

Anak I memang kaki cakap 'NO'.

Ini sebab berjangkit dengan seorang budak ni.

It's ok. Budak.

Tapi, if banyak sangat 'NO', I pun 'NO' kan balik.

Lepas tu gelak-gelak.

Nak sangat 'No' dengan mommy ye. Tak tau ke mommy ni tokey segala perkataan 'NO'!

Comel?

Nooo!!!!!!